Wednesday, May 25, 2022

THOUGHTS: Growing up somewhat independently

Sharing some thought cuz I suddenly got emotional HAHA Long post ahead
Earlier this day I went out to buy some stuff. While I was there, I saw a kid with their parents asking about how do you pay at the cashier, what do you do if you want to know the price, where is the meat section, where are the snacks, etc. The parents replied the Filipino way, pinasingka pero ga tubag gud japun.
While I was watching them it just suddenly dawned to me that I was never taught about the how to's of life. I already had this thought when a friend of mine shared what she felt about her parent's absence while growing up, but I only now did I really thought about it.
Growing up I did almost everything by figuring things out on my own. I was still an elementary student when I learned how to enroll myself. From grade 6 till I was college, I was alone figuring stuff on my own on what to do during enrollment. And when I say alone, I really meant ALONE. No parents to ask things when I dont know what to do, no friends to figure out things together.
I learned to enroll on my own from elementery, junior high, senior high, to college. All my paperworks were done by me. I had no one with me when I prepared my papers for SHS enrollment and college requirements. I was alone to figure out how to order in fastfood restaurants, how to buy stuff in the mall, how to open an account in the bank, how to get my eyes check and buy glasses, how to pay the bills, and even how to easily put on a fucking bra, In short, things I knew were things I taught to myself. That I figured out on my own. That is why people ask me why I do not know this and that, I can finally answer now that it is because I had no one to taught me about it. No one taught me how to lit a fire to cook, to open a coconut, cook food, or every basic stuff people normally know. It is not because I was too lazy to learn or I was sheltered, but because there was no one to teach me that.
I did have a friend during grade 11 enrollment tho but most of the process was just me being alone. (P.S. Thank you Monica btw. I'm sorry if you felt alone or something when I did things on my own. I swear, at that time that was what I thought about how these things work. I wasn't used to nor did I know friends do things together. Like wait for each other or let you help me. I thought I should do everything on my own and you too should do it on you own and only ask for help when you really needed it. Sorry hehe)
Now, I watch my friends do everything together. From enrolling, living independently, do school works, etc. I feel happy for them tho. It just made me thought I should have made the people around me more 'involved' in my life. I would still do things on my own tho but only when I need other people (like for PE activities) would I reach out. For other things, I am comfortable being alone. Just that, It just makes me things if there could have been a difference if there were people with me.
But it couldn't be helped because that was how I grew up. To do things alone. To be on my own. I dont blame my parents tho. We were poor and my parents had to do everything to put food in our mouths. My mom is a teacher who worked far from home. My dad worked as a traffic enforcer for 18 years before he decided to teach. Back then life was hard. Like really hard. I could even still remember that time duirng summer when I almost cried when we ate chicken adobo at dinner. All throughtout that summer, all we had were bulad, can foods, and mostly just boiled potatoes. It was only when I was in SHS when my father finally had a stable job that they had been able to buy us branded clothes, a nice phone, etc. I wouldnt say we were so poor that we dont have anything to eat or wear, but it certainly wasnt enough. Glad life is getting better.
Charot nakshare na nuon kos akong life but anyways, the point is my parents were too busy to be that 'involved' in my life. I understand it. I also dont find myself pitiful because I grew up that way. I dont regret it as well.
It just makes me think if the grass is greener on the other side. Like if things would have been less scary if I had someone to hold my hand when I was scared or anxious. Or if things had been simple or easier when I had someone to explore with. Or if I would have made less mistakes when someone told me what to do. Or if I wouldnt have been humiliated multiple times or wasted time if only I knew beforehand. Now that I think of it, maybe thats why I get emotional when I ask fro help. That I tear up whenevr I feel vulnerable. I swear whenever I'm sick, I'd always cry whenever I tell my parents I'm sick and I need some care. I'd also be very anxious when I ask my friends help about some things or even get emotional whenever I admit I dont know what to do. Heck, the last time I cried to my friends because I was worried on what to do was when we were eating at kalderos and James showed me a video about moving out and doing new stuff. It touched what I feared so bad that I just cried. Yawa I even remember crying to Jeaff because I didnt know what to do after confessing for the first time and getting mu heart broken HAHA Whenever I feel anxious, humiliated, frustrated, and cornered I would always cry because I am unable to handle those emotions. It makes me a crybaby but I couldn't help but feel mad about not knowing what to do or having nothing to do at all to help myself.
Now I am trying to let poeple more involved in my life. Whenever there is a new store I want to go to, I ask my friends if they want to come with me (cuz normally I'd go alone HAHA). Whenever I pick clothes or things, I ask my parents their references if they like it or not.
For those who are independent like me, especially for those who are more so than I do, cheers to us. I hope we'd be able to not to depend but atleast let other help some aspects of our life. Being alone is okay. But who knows, may life would be better if we co-exist.

Monday, March 28, 2022

THOUGHT: If I'd ever leave..

 I'd be happy as long as the people I left are in good hands. That if I ever leave, I won't leave a mark or a stain. That as long as they can live happily without me, I too, would be happy as I leave them behind. I am a person who can not keep relationships. I tend to disappear a lot or not care at all. I do not believe I am an irreplaceable person. And I am fine with that. Because that would mean no one would be left destroyed or broken if I ever decide to leave for good. 


Wednesday, March 23, 2022

THOUGHTS: Things I need to endure

 There are a lot of things I have to endure. Honestly, I don't even know if I have to. I was growing up thinking I should keep it in. Not to cry, or even complain. But I am a crybaby. I am weak. I had been too strong for awhile now. I was busy trying not to fall down that I forgot I was fragile. Now, I'm falling apart. I have been thinking of doing it too. I thought this I was just having mental breakdowns. But it;s happening a lot lately. Sometimes I just suddenly sit down and lament how my life is. Hopefully, I'd pass this phase

SHARE: I made a wattpad story

 Okay, this one is not great, and also the other stories I've written. But I wanted to write again. And I surely made this decision at the wrong time because it is 4AM and I just finished Chapter 1. Holy crap. 


For those interested: https://www.wattpad.com/story/229253741-ellogia-her-dark-past



RECOMMENDATION: Lout of Count's Family

I had always been a fan of isekai manhwas/manhuas/novels. My preferences prefer those without any harems or even romance (some I rarely liked the pair). For those who are like me, this is a good choice. It doesn't have the typical 'fateful' encounters since the MC knew beforehand what that world was like (since he transmigrated from a novel he read), but he is lucky at the part wherein he gets away from his not-so-good thoughts because of the misunderstandings from the people around him. In a way, he is a good person. But not the overly pure-hearted one. He won't get out of his way but he won't look the other way when people in need of help are in front of him. And the best part is that there is no romance at the moment. As of March 2022, the novel has 700+ chapters. 




HI! Welcome to my blog

I am a person with a lot of thoughts and opinions, especially a topic I am interested in. But unfortunately, I can not openly say my thoughts to anyone since the pandemic. Or maybe since before when personal interactions are still a thing (lol). I have a lot of personal opinions, some are not even things I can verify but whether I am right or wrong, I still want a platform wherein I can talk about anything. At first, I wanted it to be on my Facebook account but I keep on getting into arguments. Although I am open with criticism, on the other hand,  I am not fond of the useless exchange of insults. Worse, most of them are people I know or encounter. As such, I made this in hopes that I don't meet them here. HAHA Anyways, I hope you enjoy or find this blog worth wasting time on.